First date drinks abroad, sober dating in (apparently)

“Meeting for drinks” is my favorite form of human interaction. A friend wants to hang out? Let’s meet for drinks. Old co-worker in town? Let’s meet for drinks. First date? Obviously we meet for drinks. Unless, of course, it’s among the majority (frankly horrific) of hinge users who seem to be heavy drinking on dates.

According to the dating app, meeting for drinks on a date is over, and “unconfirmed dating” is this summer. Hinge’s recent data indicates that 75% of dating app users would rather not drink on dates, which I find, frankly, too shocking to believe.

Obviously, I am aware that sobriety has become trendy in recent years, especially among members of the younger generations. I’m also aware of the supposed benefits of sober dating (although as someone who hasn’t been so vigilant on a date since college, I can’t vouch for them personally). These, according to Hinge users, include the ability to establish a true connection with another person who is unaffected by the rose-tinted glasses of wine, and who has the ability to make informed decisions about who you are with and whether or not they are you. Actually, of course, it’s not generally a dirty nightmare.

These are all good things! Having said that, I still don’t think three-quarters of the single population will suddenly stop drinking on dates — especially not first dates. why? Because first dates are embarrassing. Alcohol makes things less difficult (up to a certain point where it makes things more difficult, but not usually until the next day). You don’t really know what you’re walking into on a first date, especially a first date with a stranger from a dating app, and there’s nothing wrong with lubricating the wheels with a little social lubricant.

Also, meeting for drinks is the perfect first date. It’s relatively low key and low pressure, but highly customizable. Depending on the facility you choose, you can relax more or more upscale. You have enough single time to get to know each other without the stress and intimacy of a sit-down dinner, and you can easily extend or shorten the evening at will depending on how everything goes. does not match? You can politely dive in after one drink. Soulmates? You can go several rounds, end up at another bar and then escape if you want.

Dates that don’t get together for drinks suck, because they usually try so hard to replace the drinking part with another “activity.” This is somewhat divisive, but the activity rarely makes a good history. it’s a Start Good first date. I don’t want to go to a museum where we have to try to get to know each other by pretending to talk about art. I don’t want to go bowling with you. And I definitely do Not I want to meet you for a run in the park. Sorry, but sweating and not being able to breathe is not a good first impression.

And yes, I realize that people can “meet for coffee” or just order a non-alcoholic drink. I’m not even saying that’s a bad thing or that all dates are You have To include alcohol. I’m just saying I don’t think the good old date “drinks meet” is actually going anywhere. If you’re a geek (kidding, kinda!) wanting to meet up over coffee or water with a slice of lemon or something else, that’s your specialty. But if you ask me this summer, we’ll meet for drinks. Also, you pay them.

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